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Mind being MINDFUL?

All of us are naturally born mindful and this trait is already within us however, it would be more acknowledged if we keep on practising it on our day to day circumstances and experiences.

Mindfulness means that you are observing every thought and feelings and process them keenly in circumspect. Time and time again, because of the busy and hectic schedules that we have, or because our mind is mostly preoccupied with a lot of things going on, may it be at work, school, or at home, we fail to notice that we are already letting our lives pass us by. Mindfulness teaches us to live our lives to the fullest, in the moment, while accepting every current experience as it is, without including our own biases and judgements. It allows us to have full control of our lives and the way we react that would in turn help us to understand every situation better, pause for a while, and become smarter to the way we counteract things. More so, it allows us to forget the past, and not worry about the future. The current and present moment is what’s important. 

 

A lot of people often spend their lives with their mind “switched off”. Another way to call it is auto pilot, a state where we usually are unaware of our thoughts and not process them carefully. When we are on auto pilot, we tend to miss out on all of the five senses we could feel, see, hear, touch, and everything else in between. We fail to appreciate. This is what causes us to regret from what we did in the past or be anxious about what’s going to happen in the future. This could go on and on in a cycle. And that’s frustrating.


A well-known author who is the founder of the Stress Reduction Clinic named Jon Kobat-Zinn emphasized the importance of Mindfulness and that has later on developed these three key characteristics:

·        Intention to cultivate awareness (and return to it again and again)


·         Attention to what is occurring in the present moment (simply observing thoughts, feelings, sensations as they arise)

·         Attitude that is non-judgmental, curious, and kind

Mindfulness Meditation: 8 Quick Exercises That Fit into Your Day

As published on the PsyBlog: https://www.spring.org.uk/2014/04/mindfulness-meditation-8-quick-exercises-that-easily-fit-into-your-day.php

As when cultivating all forms of mindfulness, it’s about focusing the attention.

1. The walking meditation

If you do any period of undisturbed walking during the day — at least ten or fifteen minutes — then you can do a little walking mindfulness meditation. At first, people often concentrate on the sensation of their feet touching the ground.Then you could just as easily focus on your breath or move the attention around your body, part by part. The key, though, is to develop a sort of relaxed attention. When your mind wanders away, bring it back gently, without judging yourself.

2. The eating meditation


So, you can practice a little mindfulness meditation while you eat. When you take the first bite of any meal, just take a moment to really pay attention to the taste. Look at the food carefully, feel the textures in your mouth, smell it and notice how your body reacts to it. You don’t need to keep this up all the way through the meal but use it every now and then to focus your attention.

3. Mindful mini-break

Checking email has now become, for many, what we do in between other tasks, sometimes as a kind of break. Instead, drop the email and practice one of the mindfulness exercises. Turn away from the computer/tablet/smartphone and sit for a moment noticing the sensations in your mind and body. How do you feel? What can you hear? Try to be as present in that moment. If your mind wanders off to tasks that you have to complete or starts working over things that happened yesterday, let this go. Gently bring your mind’s focus back to the present. Just be wherever you are for a few moments.

Remember: mindfulness is not about trying to make sense of anything, it’s about attention to that moment.

4. Listen mindfully

Any time that’s convenient, try a little mindful listening. We get used to a lot of the sounds that are around us and quickly tune them out. If you live in the city, there might be police sirens, train announcements and people sneezing. In the countryside there could be trees rustling, birds calling or a gate creaking. What can you hear right now? Or, put on some music and really listen to it for a short period: try to hear the music without thinking about it. Try not to let your mind wander to things it reminds you of, to judgements about the music or think about the lyrics too much. Just allow the music to flow over you and for you to flow into the music.

5. Mindful brushing

Some things we do so often that we almost don’t notice them anymore. Habits, like brushing your teeth, are usually performed automatically, while the mind skips off to other plans, worries or regrets. Instead, try to focus on that chore and really experience it. Notice how the brush moves over your teeth and the taste of the toothpaste. Another routine that can incorporate mindfulness exercises is showering or bathing. Let your senses feed on the process and bring your mind back when it wanders off to other worries or thoughts. You can perform any chore mindfully and you might be surprised what you notice.

6. Just one breath

At any time during the day, take a moment to focus on one breath. Breathe in, then breathe out. Focus your attention on how this feel, where you notice the air moving, how your chest and abdomen move. Try it now. You’re not looking for a revelation from this experience; think of it more like a little mental push-up for your mind. That’s it, or if you want to extend it to a few more breaths, that’s fine.

7. Candle meditation

Of all the mindfulness exercises, this requires a little preparation: you need a candle and a darkened room. Sit for a while watching the candle and focusing on the flame (don’t sit too close). You are not trying to stare it out or ‘think’ about the chemical reaction that is going on. In fact, you are not ‘trying’ to do anything: it’s more that you are just noticing the candle in a simple, pure way.

8. Experience nature

If your walking mindfulness exercises should happen to take you to a park or green space of some kind, then this is the perfect opportunity for a little more mindfulness meditation. As you stand, sit or walk, try to become more aware of nature around you. See the different types of leaves; hear the bird calls, the wind and the distant rumble of traffic; sense the air moving over your skin and sun heating your face. Again, after a few moments, your mind may try to wander where it will. Be kind to yourself: gently nudge your attention back to nature and your surroundings. Many people do this naturally when they are in nature but do not necessarily label it as one of the mindfulness exercises. It’s doesn’t matter what you call it, as long as your attention is focused on the present moment.

Mindfulness exercises

 

Hopefully these will give you some ideas about how to practice mindfulness exercises during your day. As mindfulness expert, Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, says:

“Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.”

Don’t feel limited by these mindfulness exercises. Feel free to mix and match or fit them into your life anyway you can. Almost any activity can incorporate some mindfulness exercises. Individually these steps may seem small, but you might be surprised at the effect they can have.






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